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Why do people have Sex?

Posted on February 3, 2016 at 8:53 PM Comments comments (854)
I like this blog post by Dr. Marty Klein. It's true that people have sex for all kinds of reasons, so its best not to assume anything and just ask. Communication can also make the experience deeper and closer to what you want to get out of it. Assuming anything is usually always a bad idea.

Check out his blog post here:

How to Grow Up

Posted on October 12, 2015 at 8:39 PM Comments comments (289)
This article helps describe ways in which we can mature and grow into our relationships by connecting to the passion and sex life already present within them. 

Is Masturbation Good for You?

Posted on October 12, 2015 at 7:37 PM Comments comments (677)
Check out this short clip: 
about why the term "Use it or lose it" applies to sexual functioning and why masturbation is good for healthy sexual functioning.

Clitoris: A Complete Sex Guide on Vimeo

Posted on September 22, 2015 at 7:26 PM Comments comments (6295)
Here's a great vimeo on a Women's Clitoris. Great sex takes educating ourselves and learning about our bodies. 

Anatomy of the Clitoris

Your Brain is the most powerful sex organ

Posted on August 29, 2015 at 12:43 PM Comments comments (385)
Read this article and watch the video clip of Esther Perel talk about "Sexuality, Eroticism and Creativity", and how the erotic is a creative thing, and our brain allows us to connect to that part of ourselves. Click the link and enjoy!

Own your pleasure

Deny Your Vulnerability And You Crush Emotional Intimacy

Posted on July 24, 2015 at 10:19 AM Comments comments (350)
Have you ever wished you knew what your emotions meant? They are actually very intelligent and worth figuring out. Mine them for the riches and intelligence they contain, and use that knowledge to create connections with others. This is one way to create intimacy within your relationships. 
Read more in this article by Leon Seltzer, Ph.D.
Burning man

New Research on Infidelity.

Posted on June 18, 2015 at 3:36 PM Comments comments (223)
Esther Perel is a highly known therapist, author and lecturer internationally and located in New York City. She has been doing investigative research on the topic of infidelity and what keeps the passion alive in long term relationships. Her lasted TedTalk on this is worth a listen. 

If you have questions about infidelity, sex within long term relationships or are looking for help to get through the grief and loss and changes infidelity causes in relationships, please email for potential openings in my schedule.
Warm Regards, Lisa

"Sex: The Engine that drives us or stalls us."

Posted on March 25, 2015 at 11:38 AM Comments comments (642)
A great article with questions about what sex and your sex life really mean to you.
Intimate touch

Sex & Relationships

Posted on February 16, 2015 at 1:01 PM Comments comments (425)
Check out these TED talks about sex and relationships:

Esther Perel, Author, Researcher, Therapist

Michelle Weiner-Davis, Author, Researcher, Therapist

8 Insights to Keep Love Alive in Intimate Relationships

Posted on July 23, 2012 at 1:12 AM Comments comments (249)

“Love doesn’t just sit there, like a stone; it has to be made, like bread, remade all the time, made new.”   -Ursula K. LeGuin

In thirty-five years of counseling couples and families, I have continually been reminded about how little most of us are taught about specific tasks and principles for building and maintaining happy, loving relationships. There seems to be a myth afoot: once married, the relationship grows on its own.

Unfortunately, without some form of guidance from a mentor, minister, therapist or close friend, often what grows are bad habits and distance.

Research indicates that, on average, couples arrive at a therapist’s office six years later than they should have. This makes the task of changing all the more difficult for both the clients and for the therapist. Ineffective habits have been practiced for years, and where once there was trust and connection, there is now loneliness and frustration.

“How’s Your Family Really Doing? 10 Keys to a Happy Loving Family” grew out of our desire to steer couples and families in the right direction.
Here are eight pointers to keep in mind as you journey into the land of intimate relationships–whether as a parent, a partner, or close friend.

Tip #1: Happy, loving relationships take time and attention. Just as flowers in a garden wither without water, so will the best of friendships grow more distant without concerted effort to stay close and connected. Decades of research have found that couples who report high levels of marital satisfaction have five times as many positive interactions as negative ones. All of us thrive on positive attention.

Tip #2: Staying close and connected takes communication. Communication comes in many forms, all of which are important. Make time for a daily ritual of touching base with your partner, checking in to see about how her day is going. Remember to touch–even that hug or kiss goodbye and hello again makes a huge difference.

Tip #3: If you want to receive more love, try giving more love. This is an interesting form of the glass is either half full or half empty dilemma. Since so much of what we do is to project ourselves onto our partners, we can get caught in seeing only the negative behaviors or what is lacking. Often the person who claims her partner never listens is also not a very skilled listener. Make a concerted effort to give more of the very thing you want back and see what you notice.

Tip #4: Remember that all couples must work out a delicate balance of power. Often the harder we push on someone else to give us something, the more the other person resists. The same thing happens between parents and kids or managers and employees. In order to avoid this dance becoming a full blown power struggle, practice the art of surrendering daily. Think of all the little things your partner asks for–a cup of tea, grabbing the groceries, checking on the kids, helping fold laundry–and try saying yes each time.

Tip #5: It is far more effective to change yourself, rather than try to change your partner. When you fall in love, it is tempting to think that, after a while of basking in your love, your beloved will change with your help. Unfortunately, it takes more than love to change persisting patterns. It takes willingness and self-motivated efforts. Try making one small step towards positive change.

Tip #6: You are responsible for your own feelings and your own happiness. Many clients come into counseling either to change something about the other person or to complain about how the other person makes them feel….stupid, lonely, unloved, undesireable–you name it. No other person can make you feel something without your implicit permission or participation. If you catch yourself blaming your partner for your distress, remember that you can do things to make yourself happy.

Tip #7: Get regular tune-ups. Any car owner knows about the importance of regular maintenance and does not think the car is flawed because it requires a tune-up. Don’t our relationships deserve the same attention? You can go to a couples workshop, read a relationship book together, talk to other couples about what has worked for them, or simply make time to set goals for how you each want to improve your relationship.

Tip #8: Don’t wait until you have a serious problem to seek help. So many relationships could be saved with the help of a counselor. Bad habits can be pinpointed, and new ways of communicating learned and practiced. A few pre-marital sessions can get a new couple off to a healthy start. You don’t have to be crazy to benefit from therapy. You just need to be willing to take a step in a new direction. You and your loved ones are well worth the effort.