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Sex is a team sport-and There's no "I" in Team!

Posted on May 5, 2016 at 4:56 PM Comments comments (0)
In this article Dr. Barry McCarthy talks about how the sexual power struggles that develop in relationships do their damage over time by eroding long term sexual connection for couples. Becoming sexual team mates and learning about different kinds of touch (sensual/non sexual) will increase the potential that you will be having great sex well into your 40's, 50's, 60's, 70's and beyond. 




Guidelines for Revitalizing and Maintaining Sexual Desire

Posted on May 5, 2016 at 4:02 PM Comments comments (0)
Here is a link to some of the work I am studying right now. I think Barry McCarthy's work offers some sound structural framework for long term sexual relationships. As well as offering some level of sex education that we didn't get in high school, but should have! No one helped many of us really know how to create satisfying long term sexual relationships. Most people are just winging it and creating their own rules with mixed results. 
Here's the link:



"Why we Love, Why we Cheat"

Posted on March 18, 2016 at 10:37 PM Comments comments (0)
A video clip about the science behind Love, Sex, Men/Women/People/Evolution.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=x-ewvCNguug#action=share

Why do people have Sex?

Posted on February 3, 2016 at 8:53 PM Comments comments (0)
I like this blog post by Dr. Marty Klein. It's true that people have sex for all kinds of reasons, so its best not to assume anything and just ask. Communication can also make the experience deeper and closer to what you want to get out of it. Assuming anything is usually always a bad idea.

Check out his blog post here:


How to Grow Up

Posted on October 12, 2015 at 8:39 PM Comments comments (0)
This article helps describe ways in which we can mature and grow into our relationships by connecting to the passion and sex life already present within them. 



Is Masturbation Good for You?

Posted on October 12, 2015 at 7:37 PM Comments comments (0)
Check out this short clip: 
about why the term "Use it or lose it" applies to sexual functioning and why masturbation is good for healthy sexual functioning.

Clitoris: A Complete Sex Guide on Vimeo

Posted on September 22, 2015 at 7:26 PM Comments comments (0)
Here's a great vimeo on a Women's Clitoris. Great sex takes educating ourselves and learning about our bodies. 


Anatomy of the Clitoris




Your Brain is the most powerful sex organ

Posted on August 29, 2015 at 12:43 PM Comments comments (0)
Read this article and watch the video clip of Esther Perel talk about "Sexuality, Eroticism and Creativity", and how the erotic is a creative thing, and our brain allows us to connect to that part of ourselves. Click the link and enjoy!

Own your pleasure

New Research on Infidelity.

Posted on June 18, 2015 at 3:36 PM Comments comments (0)
Esther Perel is a highly known therapist, author and lecturer internationally and located in New York City. She has been doing investigative research on the topic of infidelity and what keeps the passion alive in long term relationships. Her lasted TedTalk on this is worth a listen. 


If you have questions about infidelity, sex within long term relationships or are looking for help to get through the grief and loss and changes infidelity causes in relationships, please email for potential openings in my schedule.
Warm Regards, Lisa

"Sex: The Engine that drives us or stalls us."

Posted on March 25, 2015 at 11:38 AM Comments comments (0)
A great article with questions about what sex and your sex life really mean to you.
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